Does Self-Acceptance really just mean Settling for Less?
There is this idea that when you accept yourself, when you embrace your body, and when you love who you are, that you are settling.
That you somehow stop growing.
NOTHING could be further from the truth.
Unfortunately, there are people in this world who treat it this way. There are those who just think "I accept myself no matter what" and live a life where the choices they make hurt other people, where they stop striving for greatness, and where they give up on their dreams. "But I accept myself just as I am - which means I need to stop trying... right?"
This is as FAR as it can get from my definition.
Self-acceptance is - to me - seeing yourself for all that you are and holding yourself with kindness, love and compassion through this life.
It is recognizing your inherent value as a human being.
It is seeing it all and saying, "I will accept you now and always. I know you are capable of so much. Let's set big dreams and go for them!"
Self-acceptance is an invitation. When you say "I accept myself" that means:
✨ I accept myself as I am today while striving to be the best me that I can be
✨ I accept all parts of my body while recognizing that my looks, my health & well-being are continuously evolving
✨ I accept that there are parts of me that can be nasty, mean, or judgmental. I will do my best to not cause pain to others and be kind to myself too.
✨ I accept that I am a human being who is flawed AND inherently worthy of love.
I like to explain self-acceptance like this. Compare it to the way you see a young child - whether they be your child, a niece or nephew, or the young child of a friend who is near and dear to your heart.
You see them growing and changing. You see them learning. You see temper tantrums, quirks, habits, and all of the phases they go through.
All the way you teach them, help them grow, and encourage them to be the best they can be.
You love them through it.
You don't accept them as a valuable person ONLY when they behave perfectly, when their body reaches a certain stage of development, or when they reach all their dreams.
You accept them and love them throughout the process.
This is what my version of self-acceptance emulates.
Accept yourself for the human that you are. Scarred, imperfect, learning, and making mistakes. See yourself. See your worth. Accept who you are in this moment.
And then reach for more. Love yourself enough to expect big things.
Self-acceptance is in NO way an excuse to settle, to do less, to hurt others, or be lazy.
It is the wholesome, loving, kind embrace of knowing you matter as a person no matter what.
You CAN accept yourself where you are right now. Treat yourself with love, kindness and compassion. This can be your truth. Just remember that it doesn't mean you're slamming the brakes on. It's an invitation to reach for more and hold yourself worthy and enough through every step of that journey.
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